Children – they’re drawn to each other by something so magical and special. In the nature vs nurture debate, this would fall under
nurture (oops) nature – the tenderness is instinctive in them even before we’ve had a chance to teach it to them.
We were visiting with Nicholas’ cousins earlier this month – it was heartwarming to see them sit and tenderly play with him. When he was fussing, they would stroke his head and murmur soft words to help him settle down, and even fall asleep (something I’m not always able to do). Our friends’ children in Victoria were the same way – gentle and kind, so instinctively.
And watch what happens as you walk through the mall with your baby – every other small child within eyesight is riveted to your little bundle. I laughed out loud at the look one child gave me when I was pushing the empty stroller in the mall – he was quite indignant that I didn’t have my baby with me (Patrick was carrying Nicholas a few feet ahead of me).
One mum was telling me how her son (the eldest) “took possession” of each new baby that came home after him (he has 3 brothers). The moment each new baby arrived in the house, he announced that the baby was “his” and insisted on caring for and sleeping with him – a special bed was made for baby that pushed up beside his own bed. “Maternal instinct” is not exclusively for girls!
Take a moment to soak in some of this tenderness next time you see it – appreciate and encourage it!